Things I learned since graduating college.

  • You will have a million different jobs in your lifetime, and you will probably hate all of them in one way or another until you find what’s perfect for you. You haven’t found your ideal career path until you are excited to get up each and every day and go to “work.” Except it won’t be like work since it is your passion and your life.

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  • It’s okay to not be busy all the time. You worked your ass off for 16 years throughout elementary school, high school, and college. It will be interesting to watch TV at night without having homework or studying to accompany it, but that’s okay. You’ll get used to it. You’ll turn to looking up pictures of cats online instead.

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  • You will meet a lot of people you don’t like, but have to get along with anyway. You’re going to have to learn to be patient and take a breath so you don’t flip out at all the ignorance in the real world. But then over time you’ll realize that everyone is different and you should just be nice and that is that.

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  • Even if you move home after graduation, you are not the same person you were in high school. You will see things in a different light and think of all the high-schoolers as children. It is weird to look at your hometown through different eyes, but not necessarily bad weird. Just different.

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  • You will have a really tough time learning how to balance work and your personal life. Maybe you will make it work, and maybe you won’t. Maybe you will lose some friends, and maybe you will make new ones. You will do a lot of thinking about what you really want in life and that will eliminate a lot of people from your life that aren’t on the same page as you.

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  • You will be really confused. Like, all the time.

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  • You will change your mind every 3 seconds on average.

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  • You will feel like you should grow up and get married and have kids and the end, but then you will realize that you just want to play for a few more years and enjoy the simplicity while you still can.

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  • Vacations will be your best friend.

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  • It is okay if you start to watch the news and drink black coffee and listen to podcasts and go to bed by 9 p.m. It just means that you’re becoming a boring adult. No big deal.

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  • You will cringe whenever you see someone on Facebook post about finals or studying. Your heart will break for them, because you know how bad it sucks.

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Okay, so maybe these are just things that apply to me, but I can’t be the only person that feels this way!

What is something you have learned since graduating college?

Weekend Recap + A Realization

Even though I’ve had a super hectic week/weekend, I’ve managed to do some legitimately fun things that I haven’t done in a while. Here’s what my weekend consisted of:

Friday

  • workout (2.5 mile run + 1 hour jazzercise class)
  • Whole Foods meet-up with a representative from a local magazine (and my mom’s old friend from high school!) that I’m going to be working with, followed up by some grocery shopping
  • date night with Luke, including Mongolian BBQ (with a coupon, oh yeah) and some Harry Potter puzzle time; We. Are. WILD.

Saturday

  • sleeping in a bit!
  • no workout, but tons of stretching and foam rolling while listening to my Jillian Michaels podcast of course
  • cleaning, blog work, and some prep for the upcoming week
  • lunch date with Caterina, a local health & fitness friend!
  • PT at the gym
  • coffee date with an old friend
  • taking the girls I babysit out to CPK for dinner and to see Oz

Their quinoa and arugula salad is phenomenal. Go get it immediately please and thank you.

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Okay, I have also come to a very important conclusion over the past couple of days: I enjoy my life so much more when I have people involved in it. Over the past few years I have developed this horrid habit of isolation. I tend to use any free moment I have for myself. Yes, this gives me peace and allows me to play catch-up on my life, but am I really happy and fulfilled by that? No; not at all. Seeing old friends and meeting new ones this weekend has totally confirmed how much I miss being a social person. Struggles with body issues, stress about huge changes in my life, many different jobs, and graduating college caused me to lose touch with a lot of people and just not have a ton of motivation to meet new ones. I need to bottle up this feeling and remember it for the next time I want to just lock myself in my room with some wine and reality TV (although that is exactly what I will be doing Monday night for the 3-hour Bachelor season finale).

Another thing I have realized: I suck at making commitments. Giving up junk food for Lent? Oops. Training hardcore and eating clean for a bikini competition in June? Whoops. Saying no to people? My bad. I always tend to fail when I make a goal for myself like that. Want to know when I succeed? When I just let things happen and play out as they should. Why am I trying so hard to set out for a path for my life, when the universe almost always tends to want to take me in a different direction? I need to learn to let it go and let things happen as they should. Am I still trying to limit the crap I eat during Lent to practice deprivation? Yes I sure am. Am I still planning on competing in some sort of fitness competition this summer? Yes I am, just on a smaller, local scale. Am I saying no to people? No; still working on that one. My new commitment is to stop making commitments. Let it go Allison.

Last thing I learned: Health and fitness is the field I am supposed to be in. It tends to be all I ever really want to talk about and one of the only things that I am actually knowledgeable about. I want to help people get healthy and love their lives, including myself. I want to spend all my free time working on my profession, seeking knowledge, and developing my own business. So why don’t I do these things? Well, I am going to. Screw what other people “think” I should do or “say” is the right direction for me to take. I just don’t care anymore. I’m doing what I want to do and trusting that God will take care of the rest. That’s the end of that.

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What a fun, yet productive and eye-opening weekend! I am so glad that I kinda put myself out there and actually had some fun for once, yet still focusing on stuff I need to get done and feeling like I accomplished some things that needed to be done/said. My DietBet starts today, so I’m sure you will be hearing quite a bit about that in the upcoming month, and I also go to LA exactly one month from today! Exciting things happening my friends. I am in a great mood right now and I really hope it continues through the week. Today will include teaching Sunday School, training a client, working on some local business research, putting together my Foodie Pen Pal box, and over necessities to get out of the way before the busy, busy week starts up again. Enjoy the remaining hours of your weekend loves!

What is one thing you learned this weekend?

Learning About Life

I think that as you go through life, you don’t so much as learn what you want to do, as what you don’t want to do. I find that I am continuously eliminating things that do not interested me or that I am not passionate about. Sure, I know that I have a huge love for health and fitness and children, but do I know exactly where I want to take those skills? Nope. However, I do know that I don’t want to be a nanny for the rest of my life and I don’t want to train in a gym for the rest of my life. I’m starting to think that I just want to be a mom and have nice enough equipment to train out of my home eventually, or travel to other people’s homes. I also want to work from home during the day, writing freelance work, doing blog stuff, and potentially writing a book. I’ve always wanted to do that, so why not now?

This whole post is about to be a ton of rambling, so bear with me. What is bringing all this random-ness on today you may ask? Well, it’s because I’ve been losing my mind lately. I have way too much going on, and a lot of it I’m just not interested in. I want to look forward to my days rather than dreading them. I want to be excited to get out of bed in the morning rather than feeling like crawling under my comforter all day. I want to want to see my friends rather than wanting nothing more than to come home at the end of the day, crack open some wine, and watch reality TV alone all night. I want to have my passion for exercise and healthy eating back for myself, rather than just preaching it to my clients (*Side note* I’ve heard about personal trainers who completely let themselves go once they get into the field because they’re focusing so much on their clients that they forget about themselves. I never understood this until I actually experienced it. It is SO easy to do.”) I want to love my life and live each day rather than just going through the motions. I need a change. Let’s rewind a little bit to see how I got here.

2009:

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I was graduating high school.

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Had just started dating Luke (well, in September 2008; close enough).

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Having a graduation party.

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Started having a blast at college.

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And met my best friend, Audrey<3

2010:

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Saw The Ellen DeGeneres Show in Los Angeles with my mom.

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Had a great first summer back at home after living on my own for 8 months on my own for the first time.

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Moved into my own apartment!

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Went out. A lot.

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Joined a sorority.

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Had a great Christmas home with my family.

2011:

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Went to a Lady Gaga concert.

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Studied abroad in Italy and had the time of my life.

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Family vacation to the Jersey Shore…and a pit stop at Hershey Park. A wonderful, wonderful place.

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Had okay seats to a Taylor Swift concert.

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Christmas with the fam.

2012:

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Hung out with Luke. A lot.

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Went up north to help my grandma with a huge garage sale.

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Turned 21!

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Saw Kip Moore, Justin Moore, & Eric Church with my best friend Mike.

And here we are today.

Now looking back at that, you can obviously see that I’ve had a great life. I’ve experienced different parts of the world, held many different jobs, lived in many different places, and gotten to know many different people over the years. I am so thankful for all those experiences and lessons, but it’s time for me to be done with that. My life has been so go-go-go up until this point, that it’s time for me to have some consistency and settle down to start my own life.

I’m going to be totally honest: I have been very unhappy lately. I’m getting back into the rut of not wanting to do anything, and it’s been this way for a while. I don’t want to go out with or see friends, I don’t want to do anything that I don’t have to do, I love spending time alone in my room, my exercise and eating schedules are whack, and I constantly feel tired and/or sick. I have a lot going on, and am not loving all of it. Looking back on my life, I find that the times I were happiest was when I was in one place doing something consistent:

  • high school, living at home with my parents dating Luke
  • last year of college, living with my grandparents
  • summers, home from college

I notice that I like things calm. I like to be on top of things and have time to do what I love and see whom I please. Right now, I can’t do that. I have a schedule that requires me to do many things a week that I do not enjoy, leaving me with minimal time to exercise, eat right, see Luke, see my friends, and do anything else for just me. I need to change something before I lose my mind, my health, and all the people in my life. I’m fully admitting that I have pulled away from a lot of people recently. I’ve lost great friends in the process and regret some of the bad decisions I’ve made.

I think that a large source of my problems comes from living at home. I love my family and am beyond grateful for them taking care of me, but I just don’t feel like I can live my own life here in my parents’ home. I need my space. Hopefully this will change in the future and fix a lot of the issues, but Luke and I will not be financially stable enough until at least the summer, so I need to make some immediate changes in the meantime. Here’s what I’m going to try to do to make things a little better:

  • Cut back my hours at the gym. I hate to do it, but I am not going to be able to work behind the desk at the gym AND train my clients. Some people can work one job from 8am-5pm and then go to another one from 530-930pm, but I am not one of those people.
  • Learn to say no to babysitting jobs when they come up. I am a “yes” person. I say yes to everything. I need to learn to schedule time for myself to work on client training plans, study new materials, write blog posts, and just have a little bit of a life of my own.
  • Exercise at the same time every morning. For me, this is going to have to be 6 a.m. This week is going to suck, but I’ll get over it.
  • Start food prepping and meal planning on Sundays. I have such busy days that I end up eating crap, simply because it’s there and I have no other food. This is an easily changeable problem; I’m usually just too lazy to do anything about it.
  • Start applying for freelance writing jobs online and start writing the book I’ve wanted to write for years. Also start my personal training website. The one thing I have determined is that I want to work from home whenever possible. I need to start taking steps in that direction, rather than just crossing my fingers and hoping for the best.

Wow. That was a lot of stuff. I really think I’m going to print out this post as a constant reminder that I don’t need to live this way. I can be happy again like I used to, even now as a grown adult. I’m old enough to make my own decisions and point my life in whichever direction I want it to go. I need to stop being lazy and complaining about things, when I’m taking no steps to fix them. Today is a new day and one I am going to use to be productive and prepare for the upcoming week.

Keep your fingers crossed for me that I’m able to get my head on straight this week and start this new chapter of my life. Anddddd, if you’re still reading this, you rock<3

What has been the happiest time in your life so far?

Fitting It All In

I’ve been having a real problem lately with scheduling my life. I used to be really good in college about getting everything done, with time to spare. I would:

  • get all my homework and studying done and usually stay ahead of track on all my syllabi (is that the right way to use that word?)
  • take 18 credits and work 20-30 hours a week
  • find time every day to go to hot yoga for 1.5 hours or go on a minimum 6 mile run
  • hang out with friends almost daily, whether it was meeting for lunch or seeing a movie
  • keep up on all my TV shows
  • cook and bake my meals every single day
  • commute a half hour to/from school every day
  • still have time to myself!!!!

What on earth? I mean, sure, I got stressed at times, but I was always able to handle everything with ease. Lately things have just been building up to a point where I truly feel like I can’t handle it all. Deep down I know that I can, but my mind is telling me otherwise. And here’s a list of what’s happening in my life today:

  • nannying for one family 25 hours a week and for approximately 15 hours a week rotating between 4 different families
  • working behind the desk at the gym about 10 hours a week
  • personal training about 5-6 different clients each week
  • writing up training plans for said clients
  • spending about 2 hours a day on writing/reading blogs and researching content material
  • I know this is a pathetic one, but watching all my TV shows
  • finding time to (hopefully) work out about an hour a day
  • extras, like cleaning, social media, running errands, and that’s not even to mention spending time with family, friends, and Luke

I know it doesn’t seem like a ton (especially compared to what some of you are currently dealing with), but it’s kind of blowing my mind. I think it’s a combination of running around from place to place every day instead of going to ONE job and the stress of living with my family where I feel chastised for my crazy schedule. I don’t work traditional hours for the most part, which is contradictory to what the rest of my family is doing. I’m not home when they are and am gone when they’re home, making it seem like I’m avoiding them, which I’m really just not.

Would I like a “typical” 8-5 job? Probably; it would relieve a lot of stress. Would I be happy in a “typical” 8-5 job? Probably not; I would most likely be in an environment I don’t like. I enjoy the jobs that are not typical hours, because I have found (at least for me) that those are the fun ones. I’ve always been a person that is more concerned with doing what they love than having a significant amount of money. As I get older, I’m learning that money is definitely a necessity, but I really just wish it wasn’t that way. For a really long time, I’ve wanted to live in California. I’ve always admired that SoCal lifestyle. The people who reside there just seem like healthy, life-loving, happy people. I want that mindset. I know that contentment comes from within, but at least for me, the external environment plays a huge factor in my happiness.

So if I could do anything I wanted in my life?:

  • have my own successful online health coaching business with one of my best friends
  • really get my blog up-and-running and write some freelance pieces as well
  • live on the beach in California with Luke near my best friends, like on How I Met Your Mother
  • live somewhere where I’m able to comfortably be outside year-round, riding bikes, taking walks, and not having to drive everywhere in congestion
  • get my quirks under control so I don’t have to stress so much about everything

It’s not a lot! Nothing fancy. I may be wrong, but I truly think that living somewhere different would really help me out. Maybe I’m being over-dramatic, but nothing seems to be exactly right right now. I need some sort of a change or consistency or SOMETHING. I didn’t mean for this to turn into as much of a rant as it did, but I need to get these thoughts out and maybe get some advice from some of you.

Any suggestions on a simple change to make in my life right now? Any thoughts on making a big move?